How To Find A Girlfriend

Men of Charm
May 30, 2023
5 min read

You dreamed about her many times. She has been right there in your thoughts since puberty: the ideal woman, not just in your bed, but in your life. A beautiful and sweet girl that made your dick hard but who was also next to you on your arm.

You imagined the two of you doing many things together:

Having hot, steamy sex.
Spending quality time together.
Going on idyllic vacation.
Entering together in a venue with everyone else looking at what a gorgeous woman you had by your side. Men envying you and women thinking what an attractive man you must be, if that gorgeous woman is with you.
Introducing her to your friends and family and getting their stamp of approval.

As you are, you feel lonely. You are ok, but you have this feeling that something is missing. But together with her? You would feel complete, abundant, and happy. You know you would.

If any of these rings a bell, you are not alone. Many men feel exactly like that.

Without further ado, let’s see how to find a girlfriend.

1. Forget Your Ex

Many guys complain that they want a girlfriend, but don’t find one. They swear they really want to get a girlfriend, but when you scratch the surface you find out that these guys live in the past one way or another.

They either have an ex-girlfriend who broke up with them and they are still stuck mentally and emotionally or they have never had a girlfriend, but they are nonetheless traumatized by past experiences and past rejections.

Whether you are a man who feels nostalgic about a woman of the past or a man who simply had negative experiences with girls in general, you need to do a favour to yourself and CLEAN YOUR MIND from the past. The past doesn’t exist. Unless you make room in your mind for new girls to enter your life, you are not going to find a girlfriend.

2. Approach Many Girls

The reason we told you to first clean your mind is that we want you prepared for action. Sitting on your ass will not get you a girlfriend. Women don’t fall from the sky, and the ceiling of your room will not open wide to rain girlfriends on your head.

You need to make it a habit to get out of your house.

Stop consuming women in the virtual reality of the internet and get out where the game really is. You are a man. You are meant to extend your masculine energy to the outside world. You have the genes of warriors and conquerors. No conquest can happen unless you reach far out of your comfort zone. Include cold approaching women on your daily routine.

You will make a point of not returning home from your day unless you approached two or three women a day. Whether they are women walking down the street or the mall or standing at the bus station or having their drink at the bar, as long as you find them beautiful, you will go and talk to them, preferably using direct style.

After taking massive action in approaching new women, you will start texting each and every one of them to ask them out. Those who will be willing to go on a date with you, you will invite home, and those who will have sex with you, you will keep contact with.

If she enjoys spending more time with you after the first time you had sex with her, she will gradually become your girlfriend. She will verbalize it to you at some point, if you keep scheduling things with her while remaining cool and non-needy in the meantime.

3. Participate In Social Activities

Women and especially girlfriends don’t appear in a man’s life from nowhere. You either find them by cold approaching them or by being part of social activities where women gather. Assuming you know what you want in a woman, you need to choose social environments where this type of women frequent.

Do you like nerdy, intellectual girls? Maybe you need to pay a visit or two to libraries, book shops, and book presentations.
Are you into artsy women? How about going more often to theaters, art galleries and dance schools?
Do you like fit girls with well-shaped bodies? Go more often to the gym or get into a local team of your favorite sport.

Women have busy lives and often go in groups. By getting yourself into these groups, you get access to the specific type of women you want.

4. Improve Your Online Game

You have certainly read somewhere that some people got married after they had met on a dating app. If you have been reading Men of Charm for some time, you probably know we are not big fans of online dating no matter how popular has become these days.

A man’s chances of attracting women are much higher through cold approach rather than through getting into the sausage bucket with hundreds of other men who like women’s pics or texting them, thinking that by doing so they might get a shot with them.

However, if you think online dating is worth your time, give it a try, but do it properly. Have a professional take your profile photos, put a lot of work on your appearance, and write a super intriguing bio.

Even after you do these things, the chances will still not be as great as they would be if you just did what the majority of men can’t: interrupt a woman’s reality, by cold approaching her.

5. Stop Looking For Girlfriends

What? A post titled “how to find a girlfriend” that ends with “Stop Looking For Girlfriends”? Yes. This is not a mistake. You must stop seeking girlfriends.

This might sound counter-intuitive, but it’s not. Women are appalled by relationship-focused men. Even if girls want to eventually end up with a specific man, they want it to be THEIR IDEA, not yours.

To increase your chances of getting a girlfriend you must have a life of your own outside of women. You must live in abundance, not scarcity. You need to have a rich and fulfilling life already that a woman would want to be part of.

Focus on becoming an attractive man, take action, and give the women you meet a great time. If you do these things, women themselves would seek to keep YOU.